You grow up with your name for 26 years and in the course of one day, your last name is forever changed. I had gotten used to my maiden name, it's who I identified with. Before we got married I couldn't wait for the day that I would take my husband's last name. I remember wanting it so bad. Now that I have it, I'm finding it hard to identify with it. Luckily, I do answer to my new married name when my students say it, but I notice that sometimes I still write my old initials and have to redo paperwork.
I know it will happen in due time and I can't wait to be able to fully identify with my new name. I love my husband and I am so glad to have taken his last name. Now, I get to enjoy this new part of my life.
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Saturday, April 30, 2011
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Finding Balance
After realizing how great I felt this weekend, I decided to do some "digging around" to see if I could figure out why. What I came up with is a little shocking to me. This weekend there was no tv and I checked my email/facebook once. I played one round of the Michael Jackson Experience on the Wii, but that was it for the tv.
When I came home I decided that I would try out a new theory. I started to limit my tv/internet usage. I haven't watched anything in the past two days, but I have still gone on the internet. What I've noticed was that not only was there more time to get things done, but I also had an increasing amount of energy as well. I still go on the internet multiple times a day, but instead of going on and surfing idly for long periods of time, I only go on for maybe 5-10 minutes at a time (unless there's a lot of blogs to read). I'm trying to replace my old bad habit of tuning out the world and lounging around all day with a new habit filled with more time, energy, productivity, and overall happiness.
Prior to limiting my internet/tv time, my moods would seem to vary greatly. I would get more depressed, irritable, and moody the longer I was plugged-in. It was awful. The past few days I've felt happier, more productive, and less moody/irritable.
Of course, the internet and tv are still great for entertaining myself, but for now I think I'm going to stick with it in moderation.
When I came home I decided that I would try out a new theory. I started to limit my tv/internet usage. I haven't watched anything in the past two days, but I have still gone on the internet. What I've noticed was that not only was there more time to get things done, but I also had an increasing amount of energy as well. I still go on the internet multiple times a day, but instead of going on and surfing idly for long periods of time, I only go on for maybe 5-10 minutes at a time (unless there's a lot of blogs to read). I'm trying to replace my old bad habit of tuning out the world and lounging around all day with a new habit filled with more time, energy, productivity, and overall happiness.
Prior to limiting my internet/tv time, my moods would seem to vary greatly. I would get more depressed, irritable, and moody the longer I was plugged-in. It was awful. The past few days I've felt happier, more productive, and less moody/irritable.
Of course, the internet and tv are still great for entertaining myself, but for now I think I'm going to stick with it in moderation.
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Changes
Getting married means many changes. I never realized this prior to the nuptials, but here we are and the changes continue to grow.
My husband and I didn't live together before we were married, we waited to have sex, and our bank accounts were kept separately (until right before the wedding). We had our own routines and would see each other often. He paid his bills and I paid ours. We did laundry for free at his parent's house and his mom made dinner every night.
Once we got married, all of those things changed. The honeymoon was a way for us to "get to know each other" away from what was to be our new life together at home. It was great and we had such a great time. The weekend after we came back my sister, Michelle, stayed with us for a week, pushing back the inevitable. Then, reality set in.
Bills needed to be paid, we were going to be living together, our routines needed to blend, we would have to now pay to do our laundry, and I would have to make dinner every night. Oh my!
Being married has meant a whole new way of living. Sometimes it can be overwhelming with dishes, laundry, and a messy apartment, but the security, comfort, and love from my husband makes it all worth it.
I never thought that being married would mean so many changes and to be honest, I didn't exactly adjust well to all of it. I got overwhelmed with all of the phone calls that had to be made to "switch everything over." While my husband works full-time to support us, it allows me to work part-time and I feel like I should be able to be superwoman and when I can't, it hits me hard. Of course, no one is perfect, but it still feels like I should be able to do more, to be a better wife, teacher, and person.
Being married also has brought a number of wonderful changes. I get to see my husband every night. I get to have dinner with him, create memories, and to go to bed sleeping next to him at the end of the day. Those things mean more to me than any of the overwhelming things that may come.
Change is hard, but can be wonderful all at the same time. I'm working on it one day at a time, trying my best to focus on the positive things that we have.
My husband and I didn't live together before we were married, we waited to have sex, and our bank accounts were kept separately (until right before the wedding). We had our own routines and would see each other often. He paid his bills and I paid ours. We did laundry for free at his parent's house and his mom made dinner every night.
Once we got married, all of those things changed. The honeymoon was a way for us to "get to know each other" away from what was to be our new life together at home. It was great and we had such a great time. The weekend after we came back my sister, Michelle, stayed with us for a week, pushing back the inevitable. Then, reality set in.
Bills needed to be paid, we were going to be living together, our routines needed to blend, we would have to now pay to do our laundry, and I would have to make dinner every night. Oh my!
Being married has meant a whole new way of living. Sometimes it can be overwhelming with dishes, laundry, and a messy apartment, but the security, comfort, and love from my husband makes it all worth it.
I never thought that being married would mean so many changes and to be honest, I didn't exactly adjust well to all of it. I got overwhelmed with all of the phone calls that had to be made to "switch everything over." While my husband works full-time to support us, it allows me to work part-time and I feel like I should be able to be superwoman and when I can't, it hits me hard. Of course, no one is perfect, but it still feels like I should be able to do more, to be a better wife, teacher, and person.
Being married also has brought a number of wonderful changes. I get to see my husband every night. I get to have dinner with him, create memories, and to go to bed sleeping next to him at the end of the day. Those things mean more to me than any of the overwhelming things that may come.
Change is hard, but can be wonderful all at the same time. I'm working on it one day at a time, trying my best to focus on the positive things that we have.
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