Sometimes I feel empty, alone, and anxious. I do everything that I can to get out of this rut, but sometimes it takes time. Time alone with my husband and time alone with God. Lately both things have been lacking. My husband has been working long hours to try to meet a deadline so that leaves little time for us to spend together.
This weekend my husband obliged to going away. I cried and told him how much I needed it and after some negotiating, he agreed. I can't tell you how much I am looking forward to this weekend. I need time with him and time in the Word. I need us to be together and to not have the internet or anything else distracting us from one another.
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Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Finances
I do the finances in our household. My husband works a lot and that's just what works out best for us. I keep him in the loop telling him what bills are paid when and how much they were and give him an update on our bank accounts often. It really is a lot of work.
It's no surprise that things are going to be a little tight this summer. I'm not working which means that we only have one source of income until late August. I'm hoping to draw as little as possible from our savings, but it seems to be inevitable at this point.
Money is something that seems sort of taboo when it comes to friends. I know that I get embarrassed to say that we "can't afford" something, but when it comes to having the latest and greatest or having savings to fall back on, it's a no-brainer. But, that doesn't make it any easier to tell someone that you can't afford to buy something from their home business or that you can't go to the movies because they are friggin expensive!
I'm trying to find balance with it all. My husband is a saver and I am, by nature, a spender. It makes me feel good to go out and buy something, especially when you get a great deal for it, but that's not always the best course of action. Fortunately, with me doing the finances, I know when to cut back and when it's ok to spend a little more. Right now, it's time to cut back.
My biggest areas of weakness are eating out and buying things for our home. I love to go out to eat. There are no dishes to clean up, the food tastes good, someone else waits on you, and I don't have to cook! The downside...cost and calories. As with buying things for our home, I feel the need to nest. It's a woman thing. Making our home look nice makes me feel good. We just rearranged the apartment and it makes me want to buy things to make it look better. No, these things aren't needed, but I want them.
Since it's time to cut back, I'm going to make an effort to not eat out as much and to not shop for things we don't need. This is going to be difficult, but it can be done and it will make my husband very happy.
What are your best suggestions for saving money? I already coupon and shop for sales. Any other suggestions?
It's no surprise that things are going to be a little tight this summer. I'm not working which means that we only have one source of income until late August. I'm hoping to draw as little as possible from our savings, but it seems to be inevitable at this point.
Money is something that seems sort of taboo when it comes to friends. I know that I get embarrassed to say that we "can't afford" something, but when it comes to having the latest and greatest or having savings to fall back on, it's a no-brainer. But, that doesn't make it any easier to tell someone that you can't afford to buy something from their home business or that you can't go to the movies because they are friggin expensive!
I'm trying to find balance with it all. My husband is a saver and I am, by nature, a spender. It makes me feel good to go out and buy something, especially when you get a great deal for it, but that's not always the best course of action. Fortunately, with me doing the finances, I know when to cut back and when it's ok to spend a little more. Right now, it's time to cut back.
My biggest areas of weakness are eating out and buying things for our home. I love to go out to eat. There are no dishes to clean up, the food tastes good, someone else waits on you, and I don't have to cook! The downside...cost and calories. As with buying things for our home, I feel the need to nest. It's a woman thing. Making our home look nice makes me feel good. We just rearranged the apartment and it makes me want to buy things to make it look better. No, these things aren't needed, but I want them.
Since it's time to cut back, I'm going to make an effort to not eat out as much and to not shop for things we don't need. This is going to be difficult, but it can be done and it will make my husband very happy.
What are your best suggestions for saving money? I already coupon and shop for sales. Any other suggestions?
Monday, May 23, 2011
Blessed
It's no lie that I've been going through a rough patch lately, but despite it all, my husband has been by my side 100%.He has been there when the crying won't seem to stop and when I feel like there's nothing more that I can do except for lie on the couch watching tv to drown out the horrible things I've been feeling.Throughout all of this, he has been so supportive and helpful. He even took off of work last week to talk to my doctor about how he can help me get through this. He has been such a blessing to me.
I have been presented with a great opportunity to go to Mexico for a week and nanny for a family that I used to work for. One of the boys that will be there was the little boy that I watched back in 2005-2007. He was, by far, my favorite. I now get the opportunity to watch him, his adorable little sister, and two friends of the family (whom I watched on a different Mexico trip in 2007). My husband has done everything possible to make this trip happen for me. He has made sure that I could get my passport renewed (with my new name) and expedited in time so that I could go on the trip because he knows how much this will mean to me.
He has also gone above and beyond what he should have to do at home just to make life easier for me. He packs up my laptop everyday for work, makes sure my car keys are on the table by my purse, puts the laundry away, does the dishes every night, and makes sure that we are spending time together when things get hectic.
He is amazing and I feel so blessed to have him in my life. I don't know what I've done to deserve him, but I thank God every day for my husband.
Friday, May 13, 2011
Taking it Back
Way back.
To the times of the Nintendo.
My husband picked up his old Nintendo from his parent's house last weekend and we've been reminiscing by playing all of the old games: Duck Hunt, Mario Bros. (the original), Mega-Man (his game), some weird bubble-game, and Mario 3.
We've really been bonding with the old games and how we used to play them when we were kids. We both loved our Nintendo games and have been having a lot of fun playing all of the games again as adults.It's funny to see how each of us reacts to the different levels and games. My husband is (of course) super calm and is way more subdued. I, on the other hand, get really freaked out at certain levels and will even scream if the ghost gets too close to me. Yes, it freaks me out and my husband laughs at me then wonders if the neighbors are going to call the cops.
I just love the extra time we have been spending together this week. It's been so good for both of us and has been so much fun!
To the times of the Nintendo.
My husband picked up his old Nintendo from his parent's house last weekend and we've been reminiscing by playing all of the old games: Duck Hunt, Mario Bros. (the original), Mega-Man (his game), some weird bubble-game, and Mario 3.
We've really been bonding with the old games and how we used to play them when we were kids. We both loved our Nintendo games and have been having a lot of fun playing all of the games again as adults.It's funny to see how each of us reacts to the different levels and games. My husband is (of course) super calm and is way more subdued. I, on the other hand, get really freaked out at certain levels and will even scream if the ghost gets too close to me. Yes, it freaks me out and my husband laughs at me then wonders if the neighbors are going to call the cops.
I just love the extra time we have been spending together this week. It's been so good for both of us and has been so much fun!
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Managing Priorities
Every day I struggle with what to do. Should I do housework? What about all of the extra organizing that needs to be done? What should I make for dinner? Should I pick up one of my crafting hobbies and take some time for myself? What should I do?
It feels like no matter what, there are always things that need to be done. Laundry, dishes, vacuuming, cleaning the bathroom, kitchen, etc. But what needs to be done right now is what I struggle with. Of course I make sure that my apartment is clean and sanitary, but it is not always "picked up" if you know what I mean.
My husband and I have a very difficult time with the concept of prioritizing. From the time he gets home from work until the time he goes to bed, he is pretty much busy with either his chores, getting things ready for work the next day, or getting ready to go to bed. He doesn't get a lot of down-time. This weekend it really hit us that even though I see him every day, we don't always get time to really spend together without distractions.
That fact really bothered me us and it got me thinking of ways to make it so that we can spend more time together in the evenings when he gets home.
One of the things I have done over the past couple of days, is to make sure to get most of the dishes out of the way so that there aren't many left after dinner. This saves him time (even though I do an extra chore) and makes it easier to have some extra time that night.
The one thing that we disagree on is how long it should take to get things done. For example, if I do the dishes, I can have them all washed in 20 minutes or less. My husband, on the other hand, will take upwards of 30-45 or more minutes to do the same amount of work. It seriously takes him 20 minutes at night to brush and floss his teeth...no joke. This, obviously, can be a bit draining when I'm ready and waiting to go to bed and he says, "Honey, I just have to brush my teeth really quickly. I'll be there soon." Ummm, not really, but ok. It also takes him three times longer to shower than I do. Seriously.
With this little problem, we have talked many times about time management and he is often asking for advice. Unfortunately, it hasn't really taken affect yet, but hopefully soon we'll get into a routine that works for both of us and allows us to get things done in a reasonable amount of time.
Saturday, April 30, 2011
Identity
You grow up with your name for 26 years and in the course of one day, your last name is forever changed. I had gotten used to my maiden name, it's who I identified with. Before we got married I couldn't wait for the day that I would take my husband's last name. I remember wanting it so bad. Now that I have it, I'm finding it hard to identify with it. Luckily, I do answer to my new married name when my students say it, but I notice that sometimes I still write my old initials and have to redo paperwork.
I know it will happen in due time and I can't wait to be able to fully identify with my new name. I love my husband and I am so glad to have taken his last name. Now, I get to enjoy this new part of my life.
I know it will happen in due time and I can't wait to be able to fully identify with my new name. I love my husband and I am so glad to have taken his last name. Now, I get to enjoy this new part of my life.
Monday, April 18, 2011
Menu Plan Monday
I cook most days of the week. Instead of going home each day trying to figure something to make for dinner every day I started menu planning. It's super easy and I'm able to know what's for dinner every day during the week, which makes for easy grocery shopping each week! The meals are also interchangeable so if we're not feeling something one night, I'll swith it up with another night! One thing that is important to my husband is that we have a veggie with every dinner meal.
My menu for this week is:
Monday- Spaghetti with (turkey) meatballs and a salad
Tuesday- Poslka Keilbalsa with peppers and onions and biscuits
Wednesday: Meatball Subs with a salad
Thursday: Tater-tot casserole with green beans
Friday- Family dinner with the in-laws
Saturday- Leftovers
Usually we have plenty of leftovers during the week so my husband likes to pack the
leftovers for lunch. Let's just say I think some of the people in his office are a little jealous :)
What are your plans for dinner this week?
Friday, April 15, 2011
Recent Craftiness
This is the pillow cover I made! Isn't it adorable? I was looking for something to spruce up our apartment and have been in a bit of a crafty mood lately and decided to go to my neighborhood JoAnn fabric store and look around. Let me tell you, I was so excited to find this fabric...and it was 30% off! So, I picked it up with throw pillow covers in mind and headed home.
Once at home, I looked up a youtube video on "how to sew a pillow cover" and was on my way. I went to the guest room to get out all of my sewing things and began measuring, cutting, pinning, ironing, and sewing. The back of the pillow is envelope-style so that you can easily take it off and wash it when it gets dirty.
I have to be honest, this is a super easy craft to do. I only know the basics about sewing and was able to do this.
I am hoping that with my new-found energy I will be doing more fun projects at home to spruce up the place!
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Changes
Getting married means many changes. I never realized this prior to the nuptials, but here we are and the changes continue to grow.
My husband and I didn't live together before we were married, we waited to have sex, and our bank accounts were kept separately (until right before the wedding). We had our own routines and would see each other often. He paid his bills and I paid ours. We did laundry for free at his parent's house and his mom made dinner every night.
Once we got married, all of those things changed. The honeymoon was a way for us to "get to know each other" away from what was to be our new life together at home. It was great and we had such a great time. The weekend after we came back my sister, Michelle, stayed with us for a week, pushing back the inevitable. Then, reality set in.
Bills needed to be paid, we were going to be living together, our routines needed to blend, we would have to now pay to do our laundry, and I would have to make dinner every night. Oh my!
Being married has meant a whole new way of living. Sometimes it can be overwhelming with dishes, laundry, and a messy apartment, but the security, comfort, and love from my husband makes it all worth it.
I never thought that being married would mean so many changes and to be honest, I didn't exactly adjust well to all of it. I got overwhelmed with all of the phone calls that had to be made to "switch everything over." While my husband works full-time to support us, it allows me to work part-time and I feel like I should be able to be superwoman and when I can't, it hits me hard. Of course, no one is perfect, but it still feels like I should be able to do more, to be a better wife, teacher, and person.
Being married also has brought a number of wonderful changes. I get to see my husband every night. I get to have dinner with him, create memories, and to go to bed sleeping next to him at the end of the day. Those things mean more to me than any of the overwhelming things that may come.
Change is hard, but can be wonderful all at the same time. I'm working on it one day at a time, trying my best to focus on the positive things that we have.
My husband and I didn't live together before we were married, we waited to have sex, and our bank accounts were kept separately (until right before the wedding). We had our own routines and would see each other often. He paid his bills and I paid ours. We did laundry for free at his parent's house and his mom made dinner every night.
Once we got married, all of those things changed. The honeymoon was a way for us to "get to know each other" away from what was to be our new life together at home. It was great and we had such a great time. The weekend after we came back my sister, Michelle, stayed with us for a week, pushing back the inevitable. Then, reality set in.
Bills needed to be paid, we were going to be living together, our routines needed to blend, we would have to now pay to do our laundry, and I would have to make dinner every night. Oh my!
Being married has meant a whole new way of living. Sometimes it can be overwhelming with dishes, laundry, and a messy apartment, but the security, comfort, and love from my husband makes it all worth it.
I never thought that being married would mean so many changes and to be honest, I didn't exactly adjust well to all of it. I got overwhelmed with all of the phone calls that had to be made to "switch everything over." While my husband works full-time to support us, it allows me to work part-time and I feel like I should be able to be superwoman and when I can't, it hits me hard. Of course, no one is perfect, but it still feels like I should be able to do more, to be a better wife, teacher, and person.
Being married also has brought a number of wonderful changes. I get to see my husband every night. I get to have dinner with him, create memories, and to go to bed sleeping next to him at the end of the day. Those things mean more to me than any of the overwhelming things that may come.
Change is hard, but can be wonderful all at the same time. I'm working on it one day at a time, trying my best to focus on the positive things that we have.
Monday, April 4, 2011
Update
Today was an emotionally draining day. I fell this morning and landed on my knee and bad wrist, twisting my back in the process. My back is better now, but my knee is a little swollen and my wrist still hurts (of course).
I went to the doctor today to follow-up with my wrist pain. The car accident was over a year ago and the pain just seems to get worse over time. We discussed our options and we are trying me on an oral cortisone medication to try to decrease the inflammation and avoid surgery. I get to go back in a month and we'll see how it's doing at that point.
And yes, I got an oral medication because I'm a huge baby when it comes to shots and I couldn't handle getting an injection into my wrist.
Even though today has been trying emotionally, I am so thankful to have the love and support of my husband. He has been by my side all afternoon to go to my doctor's appointment, sign up at the gym so we can start going together, putting clothes away, and making dinner for us. I am so grateful for him and am so fortunate to be his wife.
I went to the doctor today to follow-up with my wrist pain. The car accident was over a year ago and the pain just seems to get worse over time. We discussed our options and we are trying me on an oral cortisone medication to try to decrease the inflammation and avoid surgery. I get to go back in a month and we'll see how it's doing at that point.
And yes, I got an oral medication because I'm a huge baby when it comes to shots and I couldn't handle getting an injection into my wrist.
Even though today has been trying emotionally, I am so thankful to have the love and support of my husband. He has been by my side all afternoon to go to my doctor's appointment, sign up at the gym so we can start going together, putting clothes away, and making dinner for us. I am so grateful for him and am so fortunate to be his wife.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
When the Good Really Does Outweigh the Bad
In every relationship there are ups and downs, highs and lows--simply put there are good and bad times. In order to continue a relationship the good needs to outweigh the bad. Of course, that is different for every person. For some people it's the gifts that are considered good, for others, it's their actions, and for even some it's all about the words that are exchanged.
My husband and I have been married for just over a month. We met on the internet in April 2008 and began getting to know one another via AIM chat, email, and many long phone conversations. We started dating early that June and got engaged 2 years later. Throughout that time frame there were many good and bad times. We endured a long distance relationship for the first 6 months before I moved up closer to him. We had fights about finances, jobs, different time frames we had for marriage, etc., but one thing always remained the same--we loved each other.
Our love (with God's help) surpassed all of the difficult times we had. He never once raised his voice at me and we were never volitale towards one another. Not every time we argued was comfortable, but screaming, cussing, and throwing things was NOT an option. We promised to love one another and respect each other.
After an argument he never got me an extravagant gift or flowers, but I knew by his actions (and words) that he always loved me. By the way, you should know that my husband is by no means a "sweet talker" and only says what he means in all honestywhether or not you want to hear what he has to say with the best of intentions.
Throughout the duration of our relationship, the good has always outweighed the bad and for that, I am so thankful.
My husband and I have been married for just over a month. We met on the internet in April 2008 and began getting to know one another via AIM chat, email, and many long phone conversations. We started dating early that June and got engaged 2 years later. Throughout that time frame there were many good and bad times. We endured a long distance relationship for the first 6 months before I moved up closer to him. We had fights about finances, jobs, different time frames we had for marriage, etc., but one thing always remained the same--we loved each other.
Our love (with God's help) surpassed all of the difficult times we had. He never once raised his voice at me and we were never volitale towards one another. Not every time we argued was comfortable, but screaming, cussing, and throwing things was NOT an option. We promised to love one another and respect each other.
After an argument he never got me an extravagant gift or flowers, but I knew by his actions (and words) that he always loved me. By the way, you should know that my husband is by no means a "sweet talker" and only says what he means in all honesty
Throughout the duration of our relationship, the good has always outweighed the bad and for that, I am so thankful.
Friday, March 25, 2011
My Husband Says the Darndest Things
Every Thursday night we have dinner with one of our married-couple friends. We alternate between whose house we go to and generally have so much fun. The conversation is always hilarious and after dinner we usually get some time to talk wives together and husbands together.
Last night was no exception. We were having dinner and the conversation was flowing, as usual, when my husband says something totally unexpected...
"I bought the cow, now I get the milk...." and he paused just in time for me to say...
"Oh, so I'm a cow...and you bought me? So, that's how it is?"
This is where we all started laughing. It was just so funny! My husband has a tendency to put his foot in his mouth. All night long we were joking about me being his cow and I would "moo" for him.
For some reason this sort of thing happens when we are with friends. He tends to say something as a joke and it totally comes out wrong. It definitely leads to a great laugh and a funny memory!
What does your husband do that makes you laugh?
*For the record my husband does NOT think I am a cow or that I am his property. He was just trying to say something funny and since we waiting until we were married, marriage would be the "price paid" to get the "milk"
Last night was no exception. We were having dinner and the conversation was flowing, as usual, when my husband says something totally unexpected...
"I bought the cow, now I get the milk...." and he paused just in time for me to say...
"Oh, so I'm a cow...and you bought me? So, that's how it is?"
This is where we all started laughing. It was just so funny! My husband has a tendency to put his foot in his mouth. All night long we were joking about me being his cow and I would "moo" for him.
For some reason this sort of thing happens when we are with friends. He tends to say something as a joke and it totally comes out wrong. It definitely leads to a great laugh and a funny memory!
What does your husband do that makes you laugh?
*For the record my husband does NOT think I am a cow or that I am his property. He was just trying to say something funny and since we waiting until we were married, marriage would be the "price paid" to get the "milk"
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
On Getting Caught Up
I am so behind. I'm behind at work and I'm behind at home. There aren't enough hours in the day for me to fully catch up and even if there were, I don't have enough energy. I used to be able to give my classes "busy work" and get some grading done, but with the honeymoon, assigning a research paper to one class, and preparing to start reading novels, it just isn't happening that way anymore. I don't want to bring work home because things there aren't much better. Until just yesterday, we had baskets full of laundry that needed to be washed. The kitchen has dishes in the sink (we do them daily though) and the living room/dining room...let's not even go there.
Yesterday I decided to take matters into my own hands. We had done 5 loads of laundry at the laundromat Sunday, but still had more at home so I ventured to the laundry facilities at my apartment complex and did 5 more loads! I did most of them myself, but my husband is wonderful and helped to switch and carry some of the loads once he got home. I managed to fold/hang about half of it and plan to finish it today.
I have decided to make small, attainable goals for each day until we are caught up. Today's goals are to finish putting away the laundry, empty the dishwasher, and vacuum the apartment. Anything more than that is just icing on the cake! Of course, I still need to make dinner and get my husbands coffee and lunch ready for tomorrow, but those things only take a few minutes.
I'm really not sure how long it will take until I am completely caught up, but if I can do a little bit every day, I will eventually get there.
Yesterday I decided to take matters into my own hands. We had done 5 loads of laundry at the laundromat Sunday, but still had more at home so I ventured to the laundry facilities at my apartment complex and did 5 more loads! I did most of them myself, but my husband is wonderful and helped to switch and carry some of the loads once he got home. I managed to fold/hang about half of it and plan to finish it today.
I have decided to make small, attainable goals for each day until we are caught up. Today's goals are to finish putting away the laundry, empty the dishwasher, and vacuum the apartment. Anything more than that is just icing on the cake! Of course, I still need to make dinner and get my husbands coffee and lunch ready for tomorrow, but those things only take a few minutes.
I'm really not sure how long it will take until I am completely caught up, but if I can do a little bit every day, I will eventually get there.
Sunday, March 20, 2011
Budgeting
Getting married and following a budget is not always easy. Setting up the budget is easy, but following it is a whole different story.
Our budget consists of every bill we have to pay, an allotted amount for groceries, gas, insurance, and the rest goes towards savings. Or, that's how it's supposed to work. Since the wedding, things have just managed to come up. The crown that broke the week before the wedding is going to cost us $540.
We are being very conscious with our decisions regarding money. It's all about priorities. We want to save up for a house and have a nice "nest egg" for when we are ready to have children, so that means making changes.
My husband is a bit more frugal than I am. He is all about saving money and not spending unless there is a good reason for it. I agree with him, but to be completely honest, this is something that I struggle with. I love getting something cute every now and then or picking up something to eat on the way to work, but all of those little expenses add up.
I used to pick up breakfast on the way to work at least three times a week. Not only does that add up, but it isn't the healthiest option for anyone. In light of our budget and expenses, I have decided to not eat any fast food for a month. Sure, it will be difficult and already has been, but it's worth it.
I love my husband and at the end of the day the decisions we make with our finances affect our relationship. Being conscious about our finances and making good decisions allows us to be comfortable and gives us more security.
Our budget consists of every bill we have to pay, an allotted amount for groceries, gas, insurance, and the rest goes towards savings. Or, that's how it's supposed to work. Since the wedding, things have just managed to come up. The crown that broke the week before the wedding is going to cost us $540.
We are being very conscious with our decisions regarding money. It's all about priorities. We want to save up for a house and have a nice "nest egg" for when we are ready to have children, so that means making changes.
My husband is a bit more frugal than I am. He is all about saving money and not spending unless there is a good reason for it. I agree with him, but to be completely honest, this is something that I struggle with. I love getting something cute every now and then or picking up something to eat on the way to work, but all of those little expenses add up.
I used to pick up breakfast on the way to work at least three times a week. Not only does that add up, but it isn't the healthiest option for anyone. In light of our budget and expenses, I have decided to not eat any fast food for a month. Sure, it will be difficult and already has been, but it's worth it.
I love my husband and at the end of the day the decisions we make with our finances affect our relationship. Being conscious about our finances and making good decisions allows us to be comfortable and gives us more security.
Friday, March 18, 2011
Blond Moments from the Mr.
My husband really is a smart man, but sometimes he has his blonde moments. Take tonight, for example. We were talking about how "wonderfully" my sister and I were singing on the way home from the outlets. In fact, we were busting out our best renditions of Taylor Swift and adding our own special "flare" to the songs. It was awful, but we had a lot of fun! Here's how the conversation went...
Me: Honey, Michelle and I really did a great job singing in the car. You should have heard it. Maybe next time you could join in with us.
Him: That's ok. I wouldn't want to ruin your beautiful, high singing voices.
Me: Maybe we should have registered for a karaoke machine. That would have been fun!
Him: I don't think that's a good idea.
Me: Why not?
Him: Well, I didn't do too well with the whole DDR (Dance Dance Revolution) thing.
Me: What does that have to do with karaoke?
Him: Well, if the dancing didn't work out so well, I don't think that dancing and singing would be a good idea.
Me: You do know that you don't have to dance when you do karaoke...it's just singing.
Him: Ya, but I was just trying to get out of it.
Me: Um...you do know I write a blog right? Hahahaha
Proof that my husband is awesome.
Me: Honey, Michelle and I really did a great job singing in the car. You should have heard it. Maybe next time you could join in with us.
Him: That's ok. I wouldn't want to ruin your beautiful, high singing voices.
Me: Maybe we should have registered for a karaoke machine. That would have been fun!
Him: I don't think that's a good idea.
Me: Why not?
Him: Well, I didn't do too well with the whole DDR (Dance Dance Revolution) thing.
Me: What does that have to do with karaoke?
Him: Well, if the dancing didn't work out so well, I don't think that dancing and singing would be a good idea.
Me: You do know that you don't have to dance when you do karaoke...it's just singing.
Him: Ya, but I was just trying to get out of it.
Me: Um...you do know I write a blog right? Hahahaha
Proof that my husband is awesome.
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Microwave or Crockpot?
If you have ever heard the phrase Men are like microwaves and women are like crockpots you would know how true that statement is. Today, after devotions, some of the teachers and I were talking about this subject.
For men, sex is physical. They just need to know when and where and it can happen. Women, on the other hand, need more mental stimulation to get in the mood. If my husband tells me that he wants to go to the bedroom for some alone time and I'm in the middle of something, it is much more difficult for me to shut off my mind and race to the bedroom ready to go.
This is something that women struggle with daily. It is not always easy to shut off what is going through your head and who really wants to have sex when they are thinking about what chores need to be done, what's for dinner, what bills need to be paid, etc. Unfortunately, this is how women are wired and how we function.
I have noticed that if my husband is in the mood and I want to finish up a show first, it is best for me to stop what I'm doing and meet his needs. This has been a little more difficult this week with my sister staying with us and last night I totally failed at it. When I stop what I'm doing and go with my husband not only is he fulfilled, but I am as well! Just like he needs sex to meet his needs, I need sex to meet my needs too. So, even though it may be difficult for me to stop watching a show or to get off of the internet, it benefits us both to be intimate with one another and that is way more important.
Even though my husband may be like a microwave and I may be like a crockpot, the intimacy of sex in marriage is too important to pass up. There will be times where I am too tired or not in the mood and that's ok, but we need to make sure that our priority is always to meet our spouse's needs and that is what we strive for every day.
For men, sex is physical. They just need to know when and where and it can happen. Women, on the other hand, need more mental stimulation to get in the mood. If my husband tells me that he wants to go to the bedroom for some alone time and I'm in the middle of something, it is much more difficult for me to shut off my mind and race to the bedroom ready to go.
This is something that women struggle with daily. It is not always easy to shut off what is going through your head and who really wants to have sex when they are thinking about what chores need to be done, what's for dinner, what bills need to be paid, etc. Unfortunately, this is how women are wired and how we function.
I have noticed that if my husband is in the mood and I want to finish up a show first, it is best for me to stop what I'm doing and meet his needs. This has been a little more difficult this week with my sister staying with us and last night I totally failed at it. When I stop what I'm doing and go with my husband not only is he fulfilled, but I am as well! Just like he needs sex to meet his needs, I need sex to meet my needs too. So, even though it may be difficult for me to stop watching a show or to get off of the internet, it benefits us both to be intimate with one another and that is way more important.
Even though my husband may be like a microwave and I may be like a crockpot, the intimacy of sex in marriage is too important to pass up. There will be times where I am too tired or not in the mood and that's ok, but we need to make sure that our priority is always to meet our spouse's needs and that is what we strive for every day.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Marriage at it's finest
Marriage has it's easy times and it's difficult times. Luckily, being married only two weeks, we find it to be easier right now. This is one of the easiest times we've had in our relationship and I love it. With the honeymoon phase in full effect, it is so much easier to love one another and forgive. Sex every night is great and we both want to do it. I look for ways to serve my husband daily and he goes out of his way for me too. I enjoy making his lunch, cooking dinner, and preparing his coffee for the next day.
I love this stage of marriage. It's new and when you or your spouse does something irritating, it's easier to laugh it off or forgive.
Take this morning for example.
My husband has a long commute. He gets up at 4:10am. I don't have to get up until 6:45am. Every night I get his coffee ready and set the delay brew function to go off when he's getting ready for work. When the coffee is ready, he pours it in his travel mug, shuts it off, and puts the dishes by the sink.
I need to preface this and let you know that I am generally not a morning person. So, when my husband called me literally the second I stood up out of bed, it did not go well. The sound of the ringing from my phone right after the alarm going off really rattled me. He called to ask if I would check to make sure the coffee maker was turned off totally not knowing that it has an auto shut-off feature. The loud ringing of the phone made me jumpy. All morning I was dropping things and got very frustrated. When I called my husband on the way to work I was less than kind. I blamed him for ruining my morning in a sense. I was upset and I took it out on him.
Of course, by the time we got off of the phone I was crying and apologizing for my reaction. He accepted my apology and we were able to both move on in a positive way. It wasn't anything big, but could have turned into something huge if we weren't careful. I love my husband and I strive to show him every day.
Every day has its opportunities to show love and respect. Some days are easier and some days are harder, but we always need to focus on why we love them and why we married them and put things in perspective.
I love this stage of marriage. It's new and when you or your spouse does something irritating, it's easier to laugh it off or forgive.
Take this morning for example.
My husband has a long commute. He gets up at 4:10am. I don't have to get up until 6:45am. Every night I get his coffee ready and set the delay brew function to go off when he's getting ready for work. When the coffee is ready, he pours it in his travel mug, shuts it off, and puts the dishes by the sink.
I need to preface this and let you know that I am generally not a morning person. So, when my husband called me literally the second I stood up out of bed, it did not go well. The sound of the ringing from my phone right after the alarm going off really rattled me. He called to ask if I would check to make sure the coffee maker was turned off totally not knowing that it has an auto shut-off feature. The loud ringing of the phone made me jumpy. All morning I was dropping things and got very frustrated. When I called my husband on the way to work I was less than kind. I blamed him for ruining my morning in a sense. I was upset and I took it out on him.
Of course, by the time we got off of the phone I was crying and apologizing for my reaction. He accepted my apology and we were able to both move on in a positive way. It wasn't anything big, but could have turned into something huge if we weren't careful. I love my husband and I strive to show him every day.
Every day has its opportunities to show love and respect. Some days are easier and some days are harder, but we always need to focus on why we love them and why we married them and put things in perspective.
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